Pressure in your 20’s

I turned 25 this summer and for some reason this age carried more weight than previous years. It pushed me into the next threshold of adulthood and allowed me to officially use the term “mid 20s.”

While I realize this is still very young and I still have time and insert other cliche phrase here… it doesn’t change the fact that I started to feel a little left behind. I feel left behind in my lack of relationship, lack of job (we can all thank COVID for that one), and life in general. Many of my friends are engaged or married and some just purchased their first home. I’m so proud of their accomplishments, but I can’t help but feel a little let down in my own life.

I can guess many of you feel the same way about some aspect of your life. We all feel we should be further along in at least one area and we can compare ourselves a little to harshly against our peers. I think its time we start celebrating our unique accomplishments. Life isn’t measured by a set of benchmarks anymore. Lifestyles have changed and the standard set by generations before us aren’t the norm. So let’s explore some areas where all of us have probably excelled more than we realize.


Whether this is through travel, or moving to a new area, you probably expanded your world view at some point. Be proud of the fact that you chose to remain open-minded. You allowed yourself to step outside of your comfort zone to learn about something, or someone, new.


Maybe you’ve changed jobs a few times, or received a promotion. You excelled in new industries and proved yourself to be valuable to the team. You might not have your dream job, but look at where you started. On the reverse, maybe you left the corporate scene to pursue a passion. That takes courage and is something you should be so proud of. No accomplishment is too small.


Even if you went through a breakup that led to you now being single, or had to give up your lease and move home, you made strides emotionally. We’ve all worked through a difficult time and your ability to make it to the other side is commendable. Emotional growth should never be overlooked because ultimately, it carries us through life.

Next time you feel a little behind compared to those around you, remember the accomplishments you’ve made privately. People don’t often share their small wins on social media, but they can add up to massive progress in your life. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to fit the status quo and instead, create your own journey. I would love to know what accomplishments you’ve made lately! 🙂

“Nothing will ruin your twenties more than thinking you should have your life together already.”

3 Thoughts on “Pressure in your 20’s

  1. This post really resonates with me. Being 29 I still feel the pressure. A lot of my friends are getting engaged & I live with my boyfriend of 6 years! Still no ring ( you can thank covid for that one). I’m happy for close friends who have just gotten engaged. But sometimes I can’t help but wonder why I’m not there yet. Comparison is so bad. But I think as long as we follow our own paths & are happy, that’s all that matters.

    1. Yes, I completely agree! Sometimes we feel behind in things that really don’t have a timeline. Things will happen at their right time and yes, being happy is the most important factor.

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